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Sunday, October 1, 2017

Empathy

Empathy

"the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.the ability to understand and share the feelings of another."



so hi assalamualaikum


after a really long weekend of doing nothing, i am finally in the mood for work (so last minute already), its currently 10pm on a Monday night, like woahh, time flies.


Anyways the first thing that i wanted to do before really getting into work was update my blog, its been to long honeyhhhh. I've been neglecting it for way too long. why ? its because i lost my purpose, i forgot why i started my blog in the first place. i forgot how to enjoy just typing away nonsense and nobody caring, i forgot about the joy that writing gave me. but now that i am at my wits end with no push to move forward, i keep looking for something to do, something to keep me sane, to keep me grounded, to make sure i remember who i am, and here i am, back at writing


so yeah, that was on long intro. back to my point about empathy. today of all days from personal experience and others peoples story, i came to realize how important empathy is. we all should be treating people with empathy and we deserve to be treated with empathy as well, well of course that is up to a certain extent. but i am not here to define that extent, all i want to talk about is empathy itself. i may not be someone with empathy but i hope by talking about it i may become someone with empathy and maybe help others become a person with a more empathetic view.


The point here is, we can never know why a person acts or do things a certain way, we will never know what the root for mistakes are for everyone, at the end of the day, people make mistakes, people are flawed and we wont know the reason, we may know yet not understand the circumstances that people are experiencing. so to a certain extent, you should give people a chance, give them the space of " maybe he has something going on right now", and "maybe she's have some issues at home" and so many other things. just open up your  heart and allow yourself to be vulnerable to these possible thoughts before judging and making up your mind. You could be in a hard situation and imagine everyone treating you strictly with no empathy at all, and just with one flaw, your image is decided. 


give people that space, that deserved treatment, and surely Allah will give you the same.


i know what i'm saying doesn't really make sense right now, if you understand what empathy is, than that's enough cause i just suck at giving examples.


mind you, i haven't been writing in  while so i am rusted and busted.

that's it

goodnight.

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Caring for someone

I think when you really care about someone, you truly want what's best for them.

You smile when they laugh, celebrate their wins and suffer together through the losses.

You adore the moments you share and give them enough space to be free.

But part of wanting what's best for another may involve accepting that your paths are no longer intertwined. 

It's not to say that the moments you hd aren't real, but rather coming to terms with the inevitable truth that sometimes showing someone how much you love them means letting them go. 


- Evan Sanders, The Better Man Project

I love everything this guy says, this is one of the harsh reality but we need to learn to come to terms with.
Everything that happens in life act as a lesson to build us, as a person.
So embrace what has happened in the past, what is happening now and what will come in the future.
Remember, life is wonderful and beautiful, eventhough you can't see it sometimes.

Monday, December 12, 2016

Random rants: Patience

Hello Assalamualaikum

Recently I've been tested a lot in this area, and I learned a lot as well.

Being patient is more than just holding it in, what you held in, you have to unfold and understand the reasons and come to good terms with them.
Because, i believe in the end, whatever you held in, was for the better.
But for you to be truly happy, you have to try and understand the good things that happen because of your strong will of holding it in.

Patience is also about waiting, really wanting something but waiting anyways.
but this kind of patience only happens if you're really sure of what you want.
like shopping, u know u want that skirt, but u wait and wait until a sale to get it.
If you're waiting for something you're unsure of, anytime you could change and decide not to wait and act bluntly.

So that is it, it's actually really hard to do, and i still got a long way to go. i know.

me and and my crazy personality have a lot of renovations to do. So if you can't help, don't sit around.